Is This Worth My Time?

Q: I am a 65-year-old man who had a transurethral resection of the prostate (TURP) done to reduce an enlarged prostate 10 years ago. Ever since then, even though I achieve an erection, it is not as strong, nor can I maintain it for long. I have been using Viagra, which was covered to a degree under my company insurance, but now that I am on Medicare it will no longer be covered. I have heard a lot about various …

Depression Meds in the Way of Sex

Q: My husband and I both enjoy sex, but I suffer from severe depression and anxiety and have been on all kinds of medication for 10-plus years. I cannot do without them. I also cannot achieve orgasm. I’ve been to so many doctors, and they all say the same thing: It’s my meds. My question is: Do I have to pick between being happy on my meds, or having an orgasm? Lately it’s getting hard to pick. I really need …

Making Sex Enjoyable Again

Q: My husband is 50. For some years he has been unable to have an orgasm during intercourse. He can get and maintain an erection for a reasonable amount of time, however. Neither of us get much pleasure from sex as a result, and avoid it because it ends with disappointment. Is there anything we can do to facilitate the orgasm? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Yes, but you need to go to a doctor to find out exactly what is causing …

Sex: Is it weird when…

Q: What does it mean when a guy goes mentally numb and has an “out-of-body” experience of sorts during sex? In the few times we have had sex, the guy I’m trying to be with has mentioned this happening. He says it is the best feeling in the world but also kind of scary, and that he has had this feeling only one other time out of all the relationships he has had. He told me not to worry about …