A Millennial’s Musings on Leaving the Nest … Again

At 32, I didn’t expect to move into my mom’s basement. I also didn’t expect to miss it so much, now that I’m gone. I wrote about my living situation in October. My boyfriend, Joe, and I were just back from Thailand, where I finished my master’s degree and he taught at a university. With our belongings locked in storage, we — yes, both of us — moved in with my mom while we searched for jobs and found our …

Why Millennials Return to the Nest? They Like Living With Parents

In what the Pew Research Center calls a “return to the past,” a new study found that a growing number of young women are now living at home. About 36 percent of millennial women reside with parents, a number almost equal to the peak in 1940 when statistics were first kept. Unlike the World War II generation, many are college educated and delaying marriage. An earlier Pew survey found that record numbers of both young men and women were less likely to …

Adult Children: Put the Phone Away and Let’s Talk

As a college professor, I made a radical decision about a year ago: I banned smartphones and laptops during class. Honestly, I can’t compete with Facebook or an Internet flash sale or texts from friends. My students now take their notes the old-fashioned way with pen on paper. And it turns out that students who take notes by hand learn better. Now I’d like to do the same with cellphones at home and social gatherings. The biggest generation gap is …

Surviving an Adult Child’s Drug Addiction

One morning last June, Colorado mom Patricia Byrne went online to read her Canton, Mass., hometown newspaper. What she read changed her life: an obituary for a 26-year-old young man who was a childhood playmate of her children. The cause of death: heroin overdose. Her son, Kurt, is a recovering addict, and Byrne thought about how the Massachusetts family must be suffering. She knew too well about the guilt and embarrassment that parents of addicts endure in silence. After reading …

Will I Get Alzheimer’s? 6 Ways to Reduce the Risk

When I tell people I’m caring for my 91-year-old dad who has Alzheimer’s disease, they look at me sympathetically and say, “I don’t know how you do it.” When they learn that I also cared for my grandmother when she had Alzheimer’s, they gingerly ask, “Are you afraid of getting it yourself?” Well, yes, actually. I’m terrified. With World Alzheimer’s Day this month (Sept. 21), it’s on my mind  more than usual. No one wants to get Alzheimer’s, but when …

Why Many Millennials Delay Parenthood

While many boomers celebrated Grandparents Day this past weekend, others are wondering — sometimes aloud to their adult offspring — “When will you make me a grandparent?” They may be waiting awhile because some millennials consider children one of the last items on their bucket list. Birth rates among 20-something women declined 15 percent between 2007 and 2012. A survey, “11 Brutally Honest Reasons Why Millennials Don’t Want Kids” on the website Mic, helped shed some light on why so …