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She Was His North Star

Posted on 04/1/2014 by |Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingHis shoulders slump and his head bows as if his very life force has been suddenly drawn out of him. His face reflects the pain and confusion that his mind and heart are toiling with, struggling to grasp a wisp of reality and understand that the impossible has indeed happened. “I just can’t believe it; I can’t fathom it,” he says. “Are you telling me the truth? She’s not available anymore?” This happens every time my dad asks about my …

Siblings, Gratitude and Aging Parents

Posted on 01/31/2014 by |Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingWhether you’ve had a lifelong sibling rivalry or been the best of friends, sibling relationships can be very difficult to navigate when caring for an aging parent. I am in contact with many family caregivers, and I often hear about conflict between siblings around caregiving decisions and responsibilities. Some are at such odds that they either don’t communicate or have a great deal of trouble doing so. Others say that a simple expression of appreciation would go a long way …

Managing Mom’s Money? Do It Right.

Posted on 10/29/2013 by |Money and Work | Comments

Bulletin Today | Money & SavingsStacks of unopened bills, calls from creditors, compulsive purchases from websites or TV shopping networks, donating sums of money to questionable charities — these may be the signs that it’s time to talk to Mom and Pop about managing their finances. It’s not an easy talk to have. And it’s not an easy job to do. Handling the finances for your parents, or other elderly relatives, involves more than just paying their bills. To understand what’s involved in carrying out …

More Filial Support Cases Ending Up in Court

Posted on 10/28/2013 by |Legal Grounds | Comments

Bulletin TodaySome 30 states have “filial support” or “filial responsibility” laws, which create a statutory duty for adult children to provide financially for their parents if the parents cannot otherwise pay. They’re based on the centuries-old moral principle of filial piety, which holds that adult children have a duty to respect, obey and personally care for elderly parents and relatives. >> Sign up for the AARP Money Matters newsletter Typically, these laws obligate adult children to pay for their indigent parents’ …

Say What? You’re Bringing Mom and Dad to the Job Interview?

Posted on 09/20/2013 by |Money and Work | Comments

Bulletin Today | WorkOk, so maybe some of us baby boomers deserve the “helicopter parents” label for the way we hover over our kids. Still, I can’t imagine accompanying my bearded 20-something son on a job interview. I may be in the minority here because taking Mom and Dad on job searches and to interviews appears to be a weird new trend. According to a 2012 survey of more than 500 college graduates, 8 percent said they had a parent go with them …

Help! Who Will Care for Baby Boomers When They Need It?

Posted on 08/26/2013 by |Caregiving | Comments

Bulletin Today | CaregivingMany hands may not really make light work, but at least they help. The abundance of baby boomers means many can care for their aging parents. But a sobering report released today by the AARP Public Policy Institute shows that within the next 20 years, when boomers are in their 80s and need help of their own, there won’t be enough hands to go around. Consider these findings: In 2010, there were 7.2 potential caregivers (ages 45-64 or the average …