Why Millennials Are So Self-Centered

Time magazine put our adult children on its cover last year and dubbed them “Generation Me, Me, Me.” In response, some critics noted that several generations — notably baby boomers — could also wear the “all about me” tag. Not so, argues Jean Twenge, a San Diego State University psychology professor. She cites dozens of research studies to make her point that millennials do indeed deserve the “Generation Me” label. That just happens to be the title of her book. …

Senate Candidates Put Their Parents in TV Ads

Running for office? Better hope that you can at least count on your parents to stand by you. This year, several candidates for the U.S. Senate are citing their parents in campaign literature or TV ads — especially in voicing their commitment to support Social Security and Medicare. In two contests, a candidate features a parent in a 30-second broadcast spot. >> AARP Voter Education Guide In one of her campaign ads, Sen. Mary Landrieu (D-La.) is seated next to her well-known …

Shouldn’t Parents Have Fun at Weddings, Too?

May through October is peak wedding season, and because receptions can get repetitive, bride and groom often try to make their day distinctive. Sometimes the parents of the couple, often contributing part of the $30,000 average cost of a wedding, want to put their stamp on the event, too. But proceed with caution. There’s a good reason for those traditional rules of etiquette for the parents, says wedding planner Sandy Malone, the star of TLC’s “Wedding Island” reality show. “It’s …

Why Your College Grad Moved Back Home

At a party last weekend, I met a new college grad who had just moved back home. His plans: a camp counselor job this summer followed by a teaching assistant job come fall. Over the next year or so he plans to save money and figure out his future; maybe an M.S. in social work or a Ph.D. in psychology. He was looking forward to reconnecting with his parents after four years away. “It’s the last time I’ll live at …

On Social Media, Do You Share With Your Kids or Snoop on Them?

Some parents have battled over technology use with their children since grammar school. First came the debate on what age to allow their own cellphones. Then we moved on to laptops in the bedroom, limiting computer time, blocking certain websites. Then texting during meals and conversations. Now we move on to social media, the alternate universe where young adults typically spend more than three hours daily on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, among other apps. >> Sign up for the AARP …

For Some Parents, Every Day Is Memorial Day

In World War II, families learned of a loved one killed in action by telegram. My husband’s grandfather, with two military sons, recalled watching the telegram delivery man ride his bike down the street and praying that he would not stop at his door. Today a uniformed service member delivers the notification in person. Since 2001, the families of almost 7,000 men and women have opened their front doors to that devastating news. In that instant, life changes, leaving parents, …