If Only I Could Be Dr. Frankenstein

If you’re dating, try to compile “must-have” and “deal-breaker” lists to help screen prospective dates. The book Dating After 50 For Dummies by AARP sex and relationships expert Dr. Pepper Schwartz was useful in finalizing my wish list. The longer you’re in the dating market — and it does feel like a market sometimes — might a “must-have” become a “would be nice to have”? And does the deal-breaker list get shorter as well? A new you within reach — …

Solo Sex @ 90+

Q: You omitted an entire group of people in your article for AARP The Magazine on “Sex After 50.” There are those of us who are wa-a-ay over 50 and still enjoy sex, even though it’s solo. I don’t know about men, but I really think women stay more alive and “with it” in every way when they self-pleasure. I have some very good mechanical friends that I enjoy; care to comment on that for the group you overlooked? A: …

Marriage Therapy for the Price of a Movie Ticket

By Susan Hagen, University of Rochester A new study finds that watching and discussing movies about relationships is as effective in lowering divorce rates as other, more intensive early marriage counseling programs. Discussing five movies about relationships over a month could cut the three-year divorce rate for newlyweds in half, researchers report. The study, involving 174 couples, is the first long-term investigation to compare different types of early marriage intervention programs. The findings show that an inexpensive, fun, and relatively …

Relationship Fix: Spend More Time Apart

Since my book The Best of Everything After 50: The Experts’ Guide to Style, Sex, Health,  Money and More, was published, I have been getting emails from people asking for advice on all kinds of topics, from eating well to starting a running program to dealing with a spouse who cheats. One question I hear often is this: What happens when couples spend too much time together and it puts a damper on their relationship? This can be especially true for …