pepper schwartz

Hey, Miley: It Gets Better (Sex, That Is)

Posted on 10/8/2013 by |News, Culture, Sights and Sounds | Comments

Bulletin Today | RelationshipsFirst the twerking. Now Miley Cyrus has proclaimed that sex ends at 40. Well, it doesn’t, experts say. AARP sex and relationship expert Pepper Schwartz points out that there are a lot of myths about sex and aging, including the notion that older people don’t — or shouldn’t — have sex. “For some reason, many people think sex belongs to the young,” she says. “If that were the case, our whole species would lose all sexual feelings as they age …

Depression Meds in the Way of Sex

Posted on 08/19/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: My husband and I both enjoy sex, but I suffer from severe depression and anxiety and have been on all kinds of medication for 10-plus years. I cannot do without them. I also cannot achieve orgasm. I’ve been to so many doctors, and they all say the same thing: It’s my meds. My question is: Do I have to pick between being happy on my meds, or having an orgasm? Lately it’s getting hard to pick. I really need …

Sex and Dementia: What Are Our Rights When We’re Not Ourselves Any More?

Posted on 07/26/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsA recent Bloomberg article recapped an incident in a nursing home in which an employee walked in on two elderly residents, both diagnosed with dementia, having intercourse. The man was in his late 70s, the woman in her late 80s. The employee, a nurse, called for help and separated the two, but not without the woman clawing and screaming at them. It’s a delicate subject and the zone is completely gray. The incident led to the male patient being removed …

“She Wants to Know Details of My Infidelity”

Posted on 07/26/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: Last year, I confessed to my wife of 35 years that I’d had affairs with several women approximately 20 years ago. She’s in the process of forgiving me. We have agreed to move forward and have both seen counselors, separately. However, I feel she’s not really moving forward, due to the questions she has about my affairs. She wants me to share my story of infidelity with her: How was I able to do it? How could I do …

Ginny Johnson Not Given Enough Credit for Sex Study Contributions

Posted on 07/26/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

LegacyGinny Johnson’s death brings back a lot of memories. I remember, as a new Ph.D. and young professor, sitting around many living rooms with her and her even more famous husband, Bill Masters, talking about sex research, about women in the field, and about differences in opinions between the behavioral scientists (my group) and  the medical people (Bill’s and, to some extent, Ginny’s group). Ginny was Bill Masters’ partner in sex research. Starting out as a secretary in his office, she transitioned to the …

Family Ties

Posted on 07/24/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: How (and when) do I tell a dating partner about my difficult family situation? I haven’t dated in a long time (I’m 59, never married). This is partly due to being a caregiver — first for my dad, who had a stroke, and now my mom, who is recovering from a stroke, and my brother, who has schizophrenia and is in poor physical health. They do live independently, and with some help from community agencies, I don’t have to …