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How to Talk Honestly About Sex Over 50

Posted on 07/5/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I’m a 68-year-old widower and have decided to start dating again. I use a vacuum pump to achieve an erection since I have erectile dysfunction caused by long-term diabetes. When do I tell a prospective partner about this? Surprising her with this when things are about to get “hot and heavy” doesn’t seem like a very good idea. My deceased wife was my only partner using this device. She was fine with it, but I have no idea how …

All Is Fair in Love & Gift-Giving?

Posted on 07/3/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I remarried two years ago and am happy as can be, except that my husband and I can’t figure out how to deal with gift-giving. I have to buy presents for 10 people on  his side, and he has only one person to buy for on my side. Can you help us find a logical solution? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Hey, you’re a couple now — split everything! That means you will be doing more for him than he does …

The Online Dating Pitch

Posted on 07/1/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I’ve been a widow for almost three years and have gone on some dating sites. I just turned 70, and most of the men in my age category are looking for 50 to 60 year-olds. I don’t look 70, but I don’t look 50 either. I have a difficult time putting things into an email. How and where do I start to email a man I think I may want to meet in person? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: The most …

50 Years Together and Not Even a Hug?

Posted on 06/28/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: Due to my wife’s health problems, we haven’t had sex in 18 years. Sometimes I think I have forgotten what it would be like to have someone just to hold, sit and talk with. I love my wife very much and would never cheat on her. But it’s not only the sex, I miss just being with someone! She doesn’t let me even hug or kiss her, not even on our 50th wedding anniversary! Dr. Pepper Schwartz: You have …

Being Fearless with Love

Posted on 06/26/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I met someone on a cruise. I am 58 and he is 59. I’ve been divorced for roughly 20 years; he’s been divorced three years after 30 years of marriage. We have a lot in common and although we live in different states and struggle with the long-distance issue, we’ve been trying to keep in touch weekly. He has invited me to come visit him. I have been out of the game so long I’m nervous about going! Any …

Daughter Approved

Posted on 06/24/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I met a widower online last year. We started seeing each other and fell in love. I have been divorced for many years and he became a widower last year after being married for over 40 years. This is the first time I’ve seen anyone since I divorced. I have met his brothers, sisters, and his youngest son, who were very kind and friendly to me and were very happy for him. Also, my children are all fine with …