The Online Dating Pitch

Q: I’ve been a widow for almost three years and have gone on some dating sites. I just turned 70, and most of the men in my age category are looking for 50 to 60 year-olds. I don’t look 70, but I don’t look 50 either. I have a difficult time putting things into an email. How and where do I start to email a man I think I may want to meet in person? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: The most …

50 Years Together and Not Even a Hug?

Q: Due to my wife’s health problems, we haven’t had sex in 18 years. Sometimes I think I have forgotten what it would be like to have someone just to hold, sit and talk with. I love my wife very much and would never cheat on her. But it’s not only the sex, I miss just being with someone! She doesn’t let me even hug or kiss her, not even on our 50th wedding anniversary! Dr. Pepper Schwartz: You have …

Being Fearless with Love

Q: I met someone on a cruise. I am 58 and he is 59. I’ve been divorced for roughly 20 years; he’s been divorced three years after 30 years of marriage. We have a lot in common and although we live in different states and struggle with the long-distance issue, we’ve been trying to keep in touch weekly. He has invited me to come visit him. I have been out of the game so long I’m nervous about going! Any …

Daughter Approved

Q: I met a widower online last year. We started seeing each other and fell in love. I have been divorced for many years and he became a widower last year after being married for over 40 years. This is the first time I’ve seen anyone since I divorced. I have met his brothers, sisters, and his youngest son, who were very kind and friendly to me and were very happy for him. Also, my children are all fine with …

Is Your Marriage Stronger If It Started Online?

You have a slightly better chance of staying together if you meet online: That’s the finding of a recent collaboration between a dating website and a respected University of Chicago psychologist, and to me it’s Big News. Why? Because it’s a promising first span across online dating’s credibility gap. Or should I say credibility canyon? Plenty of people meet online – in fact, the study suggests one in three married couples now meet online – but until now they’ve tended …

Proceed with Caution – Online Dating Tips

Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Yes, but you need to be careful. While the vast majority of people are reasonably honest (they may fudge a bit on weight or height), there are always a few opportunists and scam artists out there, and you need to be cautious. If you meet online, get some facts about the person’s life -where he went to school, where he works and lives now – and then Google him and check out the facts. If they aren’t …