Relationship Test: How Close Do You Sleep?

Do you spoon with your honey to fall asleep? Or do you sleep more than an arm’s length away? A new British study finds that a couple’s sleeping position says a lot about their relationship. Researchers who asked more than 1,000 people to describe their preferred sleeping position and rate the quality of their relationship found that the closer together people slept, the happier they were as a couple. “One of the most important differences involved touching,” lead study author …

A Renewed Sense of Self After Cancer

Q: My wife lost a breast to cancer. Chemotherapy took six months, during which she basically lay on the couch and had no energy. It’s now 16 months after chemo and she’s still on the couch. I can’t get her to get up and do much of anything, including sex. We have no money to do any traveling since Social Security is all we get. Any ideas? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: She sounds as if she might be depressed. It is …

Making Sex Enjoyable Again

Q: My husband is 50. For some years he has been unable to have an orgasm during intercourse. He can get and maintain an erection for a reasonable amount of time, however. Neither of us get much pleasure from sex as a result, and avoid it because it ends with disappointment. Is there anything we can do to facilitate the orgasm? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Yes, but you need to go to a doctor to find out exactly what is causing …

Breaking Up, Boomer Edition

Q: After my wife died three years ago, I reconnected with a woman I’d known in high school. I gave her a ring on Valentine’s Day 2009. Three months later, she died of a massive stroke. That came on the heels of my my father’s death three months earlier. Since then, I have been having extreme bouts of loneliness.  I’m now dating three women, one of whom I especially like. But I’m not sure the feeling is reciprocated. What should I do? I …

So You Want to Start Dating Again…

Q: How do you enter the dating world at my age? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: First, you can tell friends you really want to start dating again, and see if they know anyone suitable. Sometimes they do! More often, however, they do not, and then you have two choices: Start going to lots of community events and organizations in hopes of meeting new men or women who might also be single and looking for companionship, or going online. You can try …

Enough Is Enough

Q: I don’t love my husband anymore. He is controlling, verbally abusive and only wants me for sex. He is retired and I work full time. He never helps around the house, yet questions everything I do. If I work overtime at my job as a medical assistant, he accuses me of having an affair. He has driven my son and daughter away. We went for counseling, and the counselor said he never loved me, just needed me. He has …