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I’m Lonely In My Marriage

Posted on 11/5/2012 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I’m married and lonely. My husband, age 68, has his own business, works six days a week with 10- to 12-hour days, and is recovering from prostate cancer surgery, with a low testosterone count.  Meanwhile, I’m home alone every day by myself with no friends nearby or opportunities to make them (we live in a vacation community with no permanent residents). The one day a week hubby does take off, he sleeps until noon or later to catch up …

What Happens When Your Soulmate of 79 Years Dies?

Posted on 11/2/2012 by |Home & Family blogger | Comments

Home & FamilyIt was a love that was going to last forever. Perhaps it didn’t last “forever” but it did run 79 years. We took note when we saw that Theresa Faiss, wife of a former Nevada state senator died earlier this week at the age of 97. Faiss and her husband Wilbur operated businesses around the Las Vegas area for more than 60 years, according to the Las Vegas Review-Journal. They even had a school named after them. Earlier this year …

I’m Taking Away Your Allowance

Posted on 10/29/2012 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: My husband will not quit spending. He has purchased several vehicles, only to trade them in for less than we owed on them. During our 18-year marriage, we have refinanced our house six times to pay off loans and credit cards. When we refinanced this last time, I refused to pay any of his credit cards or loans off. I would not have even considered refinancing again, but the low rates were appealing. That was 21/2 years ago. I …

A Dating Story: A Widow’s First Time Out

Posted on 09/25/2012 by |AARP Blog Author | Comments

RelationshipsFelice Shapiro is a writer, entrepreneur, and publisher as well as the founder of Better After 50, a weekly online magazine. In addition to being a teacher and avid runner, hiker, and yogi, she is an AARP contributor. After my husband died, I remembered hearing that, according to the Jewish religion, a widow was required to mourn for 30 days and then she could “get back out there.” And, what’s more, the brother–in-law was expected to marry his brother’s widow …Oh …

5 Things to Talk About With Your Doctor

Posted on 04/25/2012 by |AARP Blog Author | Comments

Personal HealthThe following is a guest post from William J. Hall, MD, AARP Board Member. Bill Hall is a geriatrician with a special interest in strategies for successful aging. Last time, I described some of the reasons why both patients and physicians sometimes feel that the office visit is not as satisfying as either would like. Based on many years of caring for older adults, here are a few simple strategies: Make a List. No matter what your age, the most …

What Happens When My Wife No Longer Wants Oral Sex?

Posted on 01/9/2012 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: My wife and I are in our mid-sixties. My wife has always enjoyed receiving oral sex, but in the past year, that has changed. Is this age-related? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: I don’t think it’s age-related. She is way past the early years of menopause that sometimes jerk women’s sexual desire around and affect sexual habits. And there is no biological reason for a woman who has enjoyed a sexual act to stop liking it (except perhaps if it is …