How to Catch a Date in a Lie

I’ve found that men I date are “honesty-challenged.” Many of them complain that women at online dating sites also post old photographs of themselves and lie about their age. Perpetrated by either a man or a woman, that seems so counterproductive. Does the person think a date won’t notice the discrepancy? (For that matter, why do women fake orgasms? Are they trying to teach their lovers what not to do?) I confess that I’m too trusting. I couldn’t detect a …

Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire: An Online Dating Epidemic

My biggest criticism of online dating is this: People lie. Like my ex. When I came across his profile on a site, he had shed eight years. A man I dated a couple of months ago first told me he was separated, but later admitted he was actually still living in the same house with his wife. They’d been sleeping on opposite sides of the house for years, he said, but then he confessed that she recently slipped into his …

A Potential Mate: How to Know Him When You See Him

The book Soul Signs by Rosemary Altea not only taught me about myself, it also taught me how to determine compatible mates for me. With my horrible track record, the lesson was welcome. As a “dreamer soul” sign in Altea’s system, my energy flow is central, which means I’m supposed to get along with introverts, extroverts and other centralists. It’s like having type AB positive blood type, the universal recipient: I’m receptive to everybody. A new you within reach — Visit …

Why Soul Searchers Have It Wrong

“Searching for a soul mate” seems to be a preoccupation on Internet dating sites. Supposedly, finding some preordained person will almost effortlessly foster days of mutual bliss. Should any conflicts arise, they will be easily negotiated. Most importantly, soul mates will bring out the best in one another. A new you within reach — Visit AARP Life Reimagined » I don’t believe in soul mates. There, I said it! I don’t think there is just one and only one person out …

Am I Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places?

After half a year of visiting online dating sites, I’m a bit discouraged. I was hoping they would lead me to someone engaging, honest and sexy. That hasn’t happened, but instead of giving up, I’ve started trying to meet people at different kinds of websites. Conventional wisdom says, do what you love and you’re more likely to meet people you like. I love playing tennis, so I joined TennisRound, which pairs players of similar skill and location. To my delight, …

Debt: A Deal Breaker in Millennial Romances?

We heard through the grapevine about a boomer couple upset because their son, who graduated from a prestigious college and professional school without loans, was marrying a young lawyer with tens of thousands in educational debt. The parents feared that paying off this financial burden would delay the couple in buying a house and starting a family. Wisely, they chose to say nothing. Their concern is not unwarranted. Millennials who are able to get ahead financially by owning a house …