How a Woman Can Date Like a Man

A recent first date was quite forthcoming. He suggested that I date like a man. As a man, he dates multiple women at the same time and whittles away those he doesn’t like until only one he likes remains. He referred to the women he’s dating as his “harem.” It turned out that I became the woman he finally selected, and to no one’s surprise, the relationship didn’t last long. It did, however, plant an idea. Why can’t a woman date …

How I’m Debunking a Myth About Online Dating

A recent Washington Post article written by Christian Rudder, author of Dataclysm and cofounder of OkCupid, debunked five myths about online dating. The fifth: “Photos are the best way to tell whether you’ll be attracted to someone.” Rudder described a little experiment to promote “blind-dating” on his dating site. He called it Love Is Blind Day. For just one day, his company removed all the profile photographs on the dating site. Site traffic dropped more than 80 percent that day. …

What They Saw in Me

When I was 8 years old, my teacher told my parents that I was failing third grade, that I was mentally retarded (a label used frequently in those days) and that I was essentially unteachable. Thankfully, she didn’t have the last word. Three adults in my neighborhood – a barber, a Methodist minister and a friend’s mother – saw something in me that neither my teacher nor my parents could see. With their strong encouragement and even stronger discipline, I …

Would My Date Turn Out Heavenly or Disheartening?

He wore a black shirt and white shorts. I wore a white shirt with black capris. We met at the beach concession stand, just as the Super-Harvest Blood Moon fully eclipsed. It was dark, but our white garments divulged our identities. He was Mr. 97%, the man whose answers to hundreds of questions on the online dating site OkCupid matched 97 percent of mine. Earlier that day, he wrote that he would like to talk on the phone to get better acquainted. I suggested we …

Should I Lower My Dating Expectations?

It took a few weeks, but Mr. 99% finally called. He’s the elusive man with whom I shared 99 percent of the same answers for hundreds of questions on the OkCupid online dating site. We “conversed” for an hour. Although he was interesting, he also did 99 percent of the talking. A new you within reach — Visit AARP Life Reimagined » I followed up by e-mail on the OkCupid site. No response. Then I left a phone message. Another week has passed …

Is ‘Mr. 99% Compatible’ So Right for Me?

OkCupid tells me I’m 99 percent compatible with another visitor to the online dating site. This is based on how Mr. 99% and I answered hundreds of questions. Here are examples of the 547 questions we both answered. To the question “How much intelligence is a turn-on,” we both answered “a lot.” OK, he also correctly answered an IQ question that I got wrong, but it was a math question, for goodness sakes. A new you within reach — Visit …