Should I Lower My Dating Expectations?

It took a few weeks, but Mr. 99% finally called. He’s the elusive man with whom I shared 99 percent of the same answers for hundreds of questions on the OkCupid online dating site. We “conversed” for an hour. Although he was interesting, he also did 99 percent of the talking. A new you within reach — Visit AARP Life Reimagined » I followed up by e-mail on the OkCupid site. No response. Then I left a phone message. Another week has passed …

Is ‘Mr. 99% Compatible’ So Right for Me?

OkCupid tells me I’m 99 percent compatible with another visitor to the online dating site. This is based on how Mr. 99% and I answered hundreds of questions. Here are examples of the 547 questions we both answered. To the question “How much intelligence is a turn-on,” we both answered “a lot.” OK, he also correctly answered an IQ question that I got wrong, but it was a math question, for goodness sakes. A new you within reach — Visit …

Is the OkCupid Online Dating Site Ok?

One of my readers suggested that I sign up for the popular online dating site OkCupid. I wasn’t making much progress on other sites, so I gave this one a try. I found OkCupid fascinating. Not just an online dating site, it’s like a gigantic mirror reflecting a detailed analysis of your life preferences and tendencies. It provides an opportunity to better understand what makes you tick, and it’s cheaper than a psychiatrist. A new you within reach — Visit AARP Life Reimagined » There is, however, …

Why Many Millennials Delay Parenthood

While many boomers celebrated Grandparents Day this past weekend, others are wondering — sometimes aloud to their adult offspring — “When will you make me a grandparent?” They may be waiting awhile because some millennials consider children one of the last items on their bucket list. Birth rates among 20-something women declined 15 percent between 2007 and 2012. A survey, “11 Brutally Honest Reasons Why Millennials Don’t Want Kids” on the website Mic, helped shed some light on why so …

How to Become a Human Lie Detector

Body language is often a dead giveaway of lying, but so is language. In Never Be Lied to Again, author David J. Lieberman makes the case that liars use certain words, phrases and syntax. These prevaricators spit out responses quickly like a parrot thinking it conceals what they’re doing, and they repeat your own words when answering your question. For example, ask your boyfriend, “Did you ever cheat on me?” and he might respond, “No, I never cheated on you.” …

How to Catch a Date in a Lie

I’ve found that men I date are “honesty-challenged.” Many of them complain that women at online dating sites also post old photographs of themselves and lie about their age. Perpetrated by either a man or a woman, that seems so counterproductive. Does the person think a date won’t notice the discrepancy? (For that matter, why do women fake orgasms? Are they trying to teach their lovers what not to do?) I confess that I’m too trusting. I couldn’t detect a …