Online Dating: Showing My (Real) Age

Q: I am a 78-year-old widow, intelligent, friendly, self-sufficient, well-groomed and well-read. My problem is how to word my online profile so that men who are slightly younger will not write me off. I am in excellent health and interested in everything around me. I can still do everything I did when I was 50. I would be a good fit for the right man 10 years my junior, but men don’t seem to consider this possibility, and there don’t …

Finding the Healthy Sexual Aid for Him

Q: My wife doesn’t want me to take prescription sexual aids, such as Viagra, because she fears I’ll have a heart attack or stroke. It worked well for me, the first and only time I got to use it. In her defense, I did suffer a heart attack at 38. My question is, are there alternative over-the-counter drugs or natural herbs that can help? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Have you talked to a doctor about this? I would at least get …

Getting Intimate With Herpes

Q: I’ve had herpes for the past 20 years. Now, whenever I tell a woman about it (before we become intimate, of course) I’m met with rejection. Are there any safe sites to find partners with herpes? By the way, I don’t like using condoms. Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Yes, if you go online you will find sites that help people with herpes find each other. Just Google “herpes and sexual partners” or “herpes communities.” However, many people who have herpes …

Overcoming Loss of Libido After Cancer

Q: I am 69 years of age and married. Three and a half years ago I had radiation treatment  for prostate cancer. The cancer is in remission. However, my libido has come to a screeching halt. I have no interest in sex, although I have forced myself to try masturbation to try for an erection. Occasionally this will work, but most times it is a failure. Because of my lack of libido, my wife and I are slipping away from …

Can the Right Foods Increase Sperm Count?

Q: My urologist told me that my sperm are malfunctioning because they are shaped differently than normal sperm and are not moving as quickly as they should, and that I have a low quantity. He said this could result from a low hormone count. What can I do to increase my sperm count? I know that I should eat properly, but I don’t know which foods supply the vitamins that will increase my levels of testosterone, sperm, semen and testosterone? …

I’m Just Not Interested

Q: I just read your article about having a celibate marriage, and my marriage has turned into that. Although it’s not due to any type of punishment – it’s just that I have lost all interest in sex. I love my spouse; he loves me. There are no problems, no stresses. We get along great, but I just can’t find the interest. My doctor said it was probably stress but I am retired and don’t have any. I’ve talked to …