Why Soul Searchers Have It Wrong

“Searching for a soul mate” seems to be a preoccupation on Internet dating sites. Supposedly, finding some preordained person will almost effortlessly foster days of mutual bliss. Should any conflicts arise, they will be easily negotiated. Most importantly, soul mates will bring out the best in one another. A new you within reach — Visit AARP Life Reimagined » I don’t believe in soul mates. There, I said it! I don’t think there is just one and only one person out …

Am I Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places?

After half a year of visiting online dating sites, I’m a bit discouraged. I was hoping they would lead me to someone engaging, honest and sexy. That hasn’t happened, but instead of giving up, I’ve started trying to meet people at different kinds of websites. Conventional wisdom says, do what you love and you’re more likely to meet people you like. I love playing tennis, so I joined TennisRound, which pairs players of similar skill and location. To my delight, …

Debt: A Deal Breaker in Millennial Romances?

We heard through the grapevine about a boomer couple upset because their son, who graduated from a prestigious college and professional school without loans, was marrying a young lawyer with tens of thousands in educational debt. The parents feared that paying off this financial burden would delay the couple in buying a house and starting a family. Wisely, they chose to say nothing. Their concern is not unwarranted. Millennials who are able to get ahead financially by owning a house …

Why So Many Online Suitors Make Me Want to Scream

Here’s an all-too-typical opening line from a man reaching out to me on an online dating site: “You look like sweet nectar and I want to make you scream.” I almost wrote back, “You’re right. You could make me scream, that is if I ever saw your face.” Instead, I simply didn’t respond. So many electronic suitors write that they are looking for a soul mate, when they show interest only in the mating part. Not all men, mind you, …

Howling at a New Full Moon

The man I am about to be intimate with was in diapers when I began having physical relations with men. Although I have 40 years of experience, I haven’t been with many men, so it’s a big deal when I decide to take this step with a new lover. It is not easy being with one man for decades and getting into bed with someone new, especially someone much younger. There are many complicated and contradictory emotions. It’s exciting and …

Are We People or Are We PPL?

Am I the only person left on earth who prefers hearing someone laugh instead of reading LOL? The 40-year-old man I’ve started dating must think I’m pretty funny because he texts me LOL a lot. In fact, he texts me all the time. His hearts and smiley faces look sweet on my cellphone, but the acronyms he uses often send me searching on the Internet for what the heck he is saying to me. It can be confusing. For example, CYA …