Solo Sex @ 90+

Q: You omitted an entire group of people in your article for AARP The Magazine on “Sex After 50.” There are those of us who are wa-a-ay over 50 and still enjoy sex, even though it’s solo. I don’t know about men, but I really think women stay more alive and “with it” in every way when they self-pleasure. I have some very good mechanical friends that I enjoy; care to comment on that for the group you overlooked? A: …

How to Handle a Sexless Married Life

Q: As a survivor of childhood incest, I’ve been in therapy for close to 20 years. However – possibly because of the anti-depressants I take – my libido is dead and gone. My sexual parts are unresponsive. My doctor has suggested various treatments, including hormones, and my husband never complains; he loves me as I am and doesn’t want me to undergo painful procedures or take hormones. Is there anything you can suggest to help? I feel like my dear …

Hey, Miley: It Gets Better (Sex, That Is)

First the twerking. Now Miley Cyrus has proclaimed that sex ends at 40. Well, it doesn’t, experts say. AARP sex and relationship expert Pepper Schwartz points out that there are a lot of myths about sex and aging, including the notion that older people don’t – or shouldn’t – have sex. “For some reason, many people think sex belongs to the young,” she says. “If that were the case, our whole species would lose all sexual feelings as they age …

Why Am I Always Initiating Sex?

Q: I am a healthy, attractive, active 70-year-old woman who still enjoys sex. My younger partner (by seven years) is rarely interested in making love and I have to initiate it most times. I’ve tried talking to him, in a non-blaming way, but he clams up, stating there is nothing wrong. What should I do? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Ask him: If there is nothing wrong, then what’s the harm in talking about why he is not interested in sex these …

To Go ‘Brazilian’ or Not?

A native Bostonian who loves to spend time with her husband and three adult children, Ronna is a former lawyer who also enjoys sailing, cooking, running, and biking.   Have you ever seen what a Brazilian looks like?  Do you know anyone who has one?  If you know anyone under the age of 30, then I imagine you do.  Because if my friend is right, “no one” under the age of 30 has hair down there anymore.  A “Brazilian” is the complete …

New Drug for Painful Sex in Older Women

It’s a common problem among postmenopausal women – painful sexual intercourse due to thinner, drier, more fragile vaginal tissues. To help the roughly 32 million women with this condition, the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has approved a new drug called Osphena. As the Los Angeles Times pointed out, it’s not exactly the pink version of Viagra, but the new drug may provide some help to women whose libido has been waylaid by moderate to severe pain during sex. Dyspareunia …