sex and aging

How to Handle the Anti-Cuddler

Posted on 07/8/2013 by | Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I’m in my 60s and still want to snuggle up to my wife. She doesn’t want any part of it and says she’s not in the mood. What do you say about this? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Is she always not in the mood? Or just sometimes? If it’s always, that’s very serious, because the 60s are no time to cut out sex and cuddling altogether. Married people have every right to assume that the pledge to monogamy includes sex …

50 Years Together and Not Even a Hug?

Posted on 06/28/2013 by | Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: Due to my wife’s health problems, we haven’t had sex in 18 years. Sometimes I think I have forgotten what it would be like to have someone just to hold, sit and talk with. I love my wife very much and would never cheat on her. But it’s not only the sex, I miss just being with someone! She doesn’t let me even hug or kiss her, not even on our 50th wedding anniversary! Dr. Pepper Schwartz: You have …

Sex Should Be Anything But Painful

Posted on 04/12/2013 by | Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I am a 60-year-old female now, am postmenopausal, and have terribly painful sexual intercourse. I have been diagnosed with severe atrophy of the vaginal wall.  Is there anything I can do besides hormone therapy to help? I am a breast cancer survivor and have been advised against hormone therapy. Is there an over-the-counter product I can use? I have tried various lubricants without success. Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Happily, there is quite a bit you can do. You can certainly …

I Don’t Want to Have Sex With My Overweight Wife

Posted on 11/20/2012 by | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | RelationshipsQ: I’m a man who has been married for 34 years. I love my soulmate, but I don’t have it in me anymore to make love to her when she’s overweight and has been for some time. I just can’t do it anymore. And now I feel depressed with no romance. I have no desire for sex anymore and I know my wife is aware. I love her and feel as  if there is nothing left but to wait until …

Sex With a Broken Back

Posted on 04/23/2012 by | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | RelationshipsQ: My second marriage of 25 years isn’t real happy these days. Aside from worrying about the financial well-being of my children, I’m supposed to have a sixth spinal operation sometime in the near future. While I’m still debating about the surgery, our biggest issue is the lack of sex. Not only am I afraid of the pain sex with my husband might cause, the desire isn’t there. Every position we have tried hurts and his comments to me don’t …

What Happens When My Wife No Longer Wants to Have Sex?

Posted on 04/18/2012 by | Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: My wife has turned me into a eunuch when it comes to having a meaningful sex life. She has told me that I must be the one to initiate all sex, as she does not have it in her anymore. Even when I do try to initiate something I am usually turned down for a myriad of reasons. I have expressed myself and her lack of any sex drive makes me ready to pull the plug on this marriage …