After 30 Years of Marriage, Now He Wants Porn?

Q: My husband of 30 years suddenly insisted on introducing pornography into our marriage. (He also wanted us to be “swingers.” I said no.) I tried instructional sex videos, but stopped when they turned into mere porn. This is my second marriage, and I had other partners between marriages. I like oral sex and multiple positions, but my husband now calls me a prude, rigid, superstitious Christian zealot for refusing to watch these sex videos. At his insistence, we now …

Not a Typical Movie Night

Q: Could you recommend good sex videos for older couples? My husband and I have been together 35 years, and we see ads in the newspaper for such videos. We’d like to view them, but their websites seem flaky and not very knowledgeable about issues of older couples. We’d like to watch videos to possibly learn some different techniques.  Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Good for you! You can get wonderful ideas and tips from videos (and they can be a turn-on, …