Depression Meds in the Way of Sex

Q: My husband and I both enjoy sex, but I suffer from severe depression and anxiety and have been on all kinds of medication for 10-plus years. I cannot do without them. I also cannot achieve orgasm. I’ve been to so many doctors, and they all say the same thing: It’s my meds. My question is: Do I have to pick between being happy on my meds, or having an orgasm? Lately it’s getting hard to pick. I really need …

Finding the Healthy Sexual Aid for Him

Q: My wife doesn’t want me to take prescription sexual aids, such as Viagra, because she fears I’ll have a heart attack or stroke. It worked well for me, the first and only time I got to use it. In her defense, I did suffer a heart attack at 38. My question is, are there alternative over-the-counter drugs or natural herbs that can help? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Have you talked to a doctor about this? I would at least get …

Dealing With the Effects of a Pregnancy

Q: I am a 58-year-old female with a medical problem: a rectal leakage, due to my last pregnancy. I am not in a relationship, only because I am afraid that this issue will cause a problem in my sex life. What shall I do? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Go see a doctor – a gynecologist or specialist in intestinal issues would be preferred. It seems to me that there should be a procedure that would be able to stop the leakage. …

Getting Intimate With Herpes

Q: I’ve had herpes for the past 20 years. Now, whenever I tell a woman about it (before we become intimate, of course) I’m met with rejection. Are there any safe sites to find partners with herpes? By the way, I don’t like using condoms. Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Yes, if you go online you will find sites that help people with herpes find each other. Just Google “herpes and sexual partners” or “herpes communities.” However, many people who have herpes …

Overcoming Loss of Libido After Cancer

Q: I am 69 years of age and married. Three and a half years ago I had radiation treatment  for prostate cancer. The cancer is in remission. However, my libido has come to a screeching halt. I have no interest in sex, although I have forced myself to try masturbation to try for an erection. Occasionally this will work, but most times it is a failure. Because of my lack of libido, my wife and I are slipping away from …

Sex, Alzheimer’s and Boomers: Trouble for Nursing Homes

Romance – for many, it’s one of life’s great pleasures. But for those living in a nursing home sex can get a bit more complicated. Having Alzheimer’s disease or some other form of dementia calls into question whether the individuals involved have the ability to give legal consent. Nursing homes regularly struggle to make that call, and this problem will only grow worse as the number of older Americans grows as the the boomer generation joins their ranks. Related: Sex and …