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Losing a Partner — and Finding It Hard to Let Go

Posted on 02/10/2014 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

Your LifeBy Joan Marans Dim My husband, Stuart, died last June after a decade-long struggle with cancer. He was 77 years old, a former journalist and public relations executive, a marathon runner, and a man beloved and respected by family and friends. In going through his belongings, I often find things that I have forgotten about, small things that taken together are not small. In the back of a drawer, I discover a poem that he wrote when we were students …

How Would You Decide This Grave Legal Issue?

Posted on 10/28/2013 by | Legal Grounds | Comments

Bulletin TodayThe law, many argue, should strike a balance between allowing autonomy and protecting society. So when the government steps into what seem to be personal matters, people have been known to object. Take the case of James Davis, a widower in Stevenson, Ala., who wanted to honor his late wife’s wishes by burying her at home. The couple had been married for 48 years. As Davis, now 74, saw it, digging a grave in his front yard was the last …

So Do You Come Here Often?

Posted on 10/9/2013 by | Latino Life | Comments

Your LifeI was in an L.A. restaurant the other evening with a circular bar big enough to accommodate the full crew of an aircraft carrier when I noticed Shorty and his girlfriend. I figured it wasn’t his wife because Shorty had to be in his 70s and she was maybe 32, and he was nuzzling her. Men of Shorty’s age rarely nuzzle their wives in public and they nuzzle them at home only if they want something. Shorty caught my attention …

Moving Beyond Loss in Words and Pictures

Posted on 09/26/2013 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

Your LifeWhen Judith Fox’s husband died at 53, she found herself in an “alien world” of grief and shock. At only 50 years old, she didn’t know any other widows and had no idea how to process the loss. Fast forward three years, and Fox was lucky enough to find love again. Three years after that, her second husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. An award-winning photographer and writer, Fox transformed these difficult experiences into inspiration for her books. Her latest, One …

Online Dating: Showing My (Real) Age

Posted on 08/26/2013 by | Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I am a 78-year-old widow, intelligent, friendly, self-sufficient, well-groomed and well-read. My problem is how to word my online profile so that men who are slightly younger will not write me off. I am in excellent health and interested in everything around me. I can still do everything I did when I was 50. I would be a good fit for the right man 10 years my junior, but men don’t seem to consider this possibility, and there don’t …