The Online Dating Pitch

Q: I’ve been a widow for almost three years and have gone on some dating sites. I just turned 70, and most of the men in my age category are looking for 50 to 60 year-olds. I don’t look 70, but I don’t look 50 either. I have a difficult time putting things into an email. How and where do I start to email a man I think I may want to meet in person? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: The most …

Daughter Approved

Q: I met a widower online last year. We started seeing each other and fell in love. I have been divorced for many years and he became a widower last year after being married for over 40 years. This is the first time I’ve seen anyone since I divorced. I have met his brothers, sisters, and his youngest son, who were very kind and friendly to me and were very happy for him. Also, my children are all fine with …

What Happens When Your Soulmate of 79 Years Dies?

It was a love that was going to last forever. Perhaps it didn’t last “forever” but it did run 79 years. We took note when we saw that Theresa Faiss, wife of a former Nevada state senator died earlier this week at the age of 97. Faiss and her husband Wilbur operated businesses around the Las Vegas area for more than 60 years, according to the Las Vegas Review-Journal. They even had a school named after them. Earlier this year …

A Tricky Love Triangle?

Q: I recently ran into an old lover who is now a widower. I was once very much in love with this man and after seeing him again, I find that I am still strongly attracted to him. I am married, my spouse is impotent and I am a very sexual person who needs touching and affection to feel wanted and loved. My spouse won’t even hold my hand when I beg! I am torn. I still respect my spouse, …

A Dating Story: A Widow’s First Time Out

Felice Shapiro is a writer, entrepreneur, and publisher as well as the founder of Better After 50, a weekly online magazine. In addition to being a teacher and avid runner, hiker, and yogi, she is an AARP contributor. After my husband died, I remembered hearing that, according to the Jewish religion, a widow was required to mourn for 30 days and then she could “get back out there.” And, what’s more, the brother–in-law was expected to marry his brother’s widow …Oh …

Top 10 Ways You Can Uncover Your Second Chance At Love

How timely: it’s my 4th anniversary this week and I have been given the big second chance…. Four years ago, Bill and I were married outdoors at our new home on Martha’s Vineyard. The skies cleared from the deluge of rain that poured from the heart of Hurricane Hannah just long enough for us to say our vows and file into the big tent in our backyard.  The rains returned just one hour post-ceremony, hammering against the tent as Johnny Hoy …