Am I Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places?

After half a year of visiting online dating sites, I’m a bit discouraged. I was hoping they would lead me to someone engaging, honest and sexy. That hasn’t happened, but instead of giving up, I’ve started trying to meet people at different kinds of websites. Conventional wisdom says, do what you love and you’re more likely to meet people you like. I love playing tennis, so I joined TennisRound, which pairs players of similar skill and location. To my delight, …

6 Secrets of Ageless Women

Are you a snoop? I sure am. I can’t resist peeking in other women’s closets, bathroom cabinets and makeup bags. And when a friend says, “Watch my bag for a sec?” I’m always happy to oblige. Little does she realize how thorough the watching will be. Call me nosy, but I’m curious. She claims to be wearing Fracas, but what fragrance does she truly have on? Which drugstore creams or makeup is she into? What products does she consider splurge-worthy? …

Why So Many Online Suitors Make Me Want to Scream

Here’s an all-too-typical opening line from a man reaching out to me on an online dating site: “You look like sweet nectar and I want to make you scream.” I almost wrote back, “You’re right. You could make me scream, that is if I ever saw your face.” Instead, I simply didn’t respond. So many electronic suitors write that they are looking for a soul mate, when they show interest only in the mating part. Not all men, mind you, …

‘Selma’ on DVD — Take Movie Night to a New Level

A few months ago, I encouraged everyone to enjoy black history year round. Well, here’s a great opportunity now that the movie Selma is available on DVD. Visit AARP Black Community » This is a chance to continue supporting a powerful black film, but there are dozens of activities we can organize to make it a rich educational and cultural experience. Some suggestions: Hold a movie night to discuss and teach the millennials in our families the principles of nonviolence. Watch …

How I Settled on My Online Dating Profile

Creating your online dating persona might be the most difficult step in attracting the right men. Do you share what you think men want to hear or do you share what you think will screen out the undesirables and screen in the desirables? The answer is, yes. You need good bait to attract and catch the type of fish you really want. This analogy is perfect for my Florida online dating scene, but applicable worldwide. First, you need a good …

The Best Photos for Making the Most of Online Dating

Few things make or break your online dating presence like the photos you post of yourself. Supposedly, men prefer women who smile in their photographs, and women prefer men who have a more serious look. A little cleavage can’t “huyt,” as my grandmother used to say. I’m referring to the women’s  photographs, but maybe men should show more skin. You would be amazed at the crummy photos men select of themselves for their profiles — men standing around holding beautiful …