Q: My husband is 50. For some years he has been unable to have an orgasm during intercourse. He can get and maintain an erection for a reasonable amount of time, however. Neither of us get much pleasure from sex as a result, and avoid it because it ends with disappointment. Is there anything we can do to facilitate the orgasm?
Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Yes, but you need to go to a doctor to find out exactly what is causing what is sometimes called " retarded ejaculation." There are many reasons this can happen, including being a side effect of antidepressants or other medication. That's why you need to talk to a urologist or family doctor who knows sexual medicine. This may well be something that can be corrected, so please see your doctor about this as soon as possible.
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