I live in suburbia — home to barbecues and book clubs, malls and multiplexes, country clubs, cul-de-sacs and Costcos the size of Connecticut. The occupants of those precincts will be out in force this Saturday, as SUVs all over town disgorge 50-plus types eager to communally celebrate our national birthday. (Cause to feel festive: We’re only 239 years old!)
I remember Woodstock even though I was there. Still, I have no plans to mosh my way through any rain-soaked music festivals this summer. Instead, all I want for May Day is a watertight beauty-and-style plan.
I’m launching a new support group for 2015: a clan of women who will resist the urge to freeze and fill every nook and cranny with a syringe of neurotoxin or filler. Want in? If nothing else, it’ll save you some serious coin.
So I’m at a concert by legendary folksinger Suzanne Vega (right) at Purchase College last week and what’s going through my head? Is it those earworm first lyrics from her “Tom’s Diner”? (You remember: “I am sitting / In the morning / At the diner / On the corner ...”) Nope; it’s the notion that sometimes I sound exactly like my mother.
Every woman 50 + has a love/hate affair with her hair and a mental slide show of our greatest hits and disasters. Mine includes the day I cut bangs (yay!), the week I went back to brunette on Monday and blonded up again on Friday (oy!) and the shag that puffed up into a frizzball (never again!) Like checking out photos of ex-es on Facebook, these images remind us not to look back but also not to give up. So your hair is not what it was - join the club! Three fixes help you move on fast. If your hair is:
Most women 50-plus have a personal "I've been thinking about ..." beauty de-aging list of things they'd like to do or try. Of course, the to-dos keep changing along with our constantly evolving lifestyle, finances, needs and attitudes. A universal bucket list is tough to come up with because we're such a diverse group, but I'll give it a whirl based on what women are telling me now. Here are six possible big and small ideas to add to your beauty bucket list for 2013:
Super-glam is the current new normal for women 50+...unfortunately. All across the country women are getting spray tans, hair extensions, wearing false lashes, decolletage, body hugging dresses and high heels 24/7. They feel guilty about not getting Botox, fillers, laser treatments or a facelift and spend a lot of time wondering if they should. I blame Bravo's Real Housewives (past and present ) for pushing our high maintenance buttons. Lisa Vanderpump, 52, Adrienne Maloof, 51, Kim Richards, 47, LuAnn de Lessups, 48 and Carole Radziwill, 48 would have been out of place on any small town street five years ago. Now they look and sound like a lot of smart, evolved, ambitious women our age who work from home, work totally online, are semi-retired, really retired or just hanging out and plotting their comeback...these are the new housewives. It's time we noted the difference between entertainment and real life. Dialing up the beauty and fashion to reality show levels is so not us. All we need is a little home improvement, not a total renovation. So stop faking it and start making it.
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