Q: Due to my wife's health problems, we haven't had sex in 18 years. Sometimes I think I have forgotten what it would be like to have someone just to hold, sit and talk with. I love my wife very much and would never cheat on her. But it's not only the sex, I miss just being with someone! She doesn't let me even hug or kiss her, not even on our 50th wedding anniversary!
Q: I am a healthy, attractive, active 70-year-old woman who still enjoys sex. My younger partner (by seven years) is rarely interested in making love and I have to initiate it most times. I've tried talking to him, in a non-blaming way, but he clams up, stating there is nothing wrong. What should I do?
Q: I have been dating a man for roughly 11/2 years. A few months ago I told him I loved him. He said it too, but only in response to me having said it. I noticed that that was the only time he would say it, so I stopped saying it with the hope that he would notice and eventually ask why. He never did and he also never told me he loved me first.
Q: I'm a man who has been married for 34 years. I love my soulmate, but I don't have it in me anymore to make love to her when she's overweight and has been for some time. I just can't do it anymore. And now I feel depressed with no romance. I have no desire for sex anymore and I know my wife is aware. I love her and feel as if there is nothing left but to wait until life is over. Is this really all there is?
Q: I recently ran into an old lover who is now a widower. I was once very much in love with this man and after seeing him again, I find that I am still strongly attracted to him. I am married, my spouse is impotent and I am a very sexual person who needs touching and affection to feel wanted and loved. My spouse won't even hold my hand when I beg! I am torn.
Q: Why is it that when a couple is trying to communicate, the conversation can get lost when one spouse gets upset before the problem is resolved? The conversation then becomes about arguing and isn't productive. How does one fix this?
Felice Shapiro is a writer, entrepreneur, and publisher as well as the founder of Better After 50, a weekly online magazine. In addition to being a teacher and avid runner, hiker, and yogi, she is an AARP contributor.
I was recently watching the trailer of Chico y Rita, the only Spanish-language film nominated for an Oscar this year, and I heard a quote that had a strong impact on me: "Love is a song that you never forget." For Latinos, love is exactly that: A feeling that permeates everything we do and is as indispensable as adding sugar to your morning coffee.
Turning 100 is a significant milestone in and of itself, but Dana Jackson decided to also tie the knot on her one hundredth birthday. Jackson met Bill Strauss, 87, some time ago the Western Kentucky Active Day Center. They were reunited at the Rosewood Health Care Center(where they both now live) in Bowling Green, Ky. They got hitched last week.
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