That perfect Norman Rockwell tableau doesn’t always match real life around the Thanksgiving table. Throughout the holiday season, family feuds can simmer, prompting outright refusal by adult children to join the festivities.
Mother’s Day brings a spending spree as Americans dole out a record $21 billion this year for cards, flowers, jewelry, gift certificates, electronics and gardening tools, as well as creating a crush at restaurants for brunch and dinner on Sunday.
As a "working mother" since the late 1980s, I've read - even written - countless stories over the years on challenges of trying to juggle kids and a career.
Today, moms-to-be usually see their progeny on a sonogram about halfway through a pregnancy, months before they give birth. Back in 1963, however, such sophisticated imaging technology wasn't yet available. So when Mary Ann Fischer, a 30-year-old women in Aberdeen, S.D., got exceptionally big seven months into her pregnancy - "I was gaining four or five pounds a day," she later recalled - her obstetrician, Dr. James Berbos, did an X-ray of her body. When he saw the film, he discovered the reason: Fischer had multiple fetuses in her uterus. Five of them, in fact.
Upon my weekly, actually sometimes daily, ritual of going to Walgreens and Target, which are both a block from my house, I couldn't help but get caught up in all the Mother's Day merchandise that was now on sale. Wow, so many things were not purchased for that special person who we all refer to as Mom. I immediately glanced over at all the greeting cards that had a big red sign over them that read "half-price"...hmmm...I wondered what did one card say that inspired someone to purchase it versus these sad unselected ones that were screaming out, "Buy me; I'm on sale."
Some things get better with time. The holidays to me fall into that category. We seem to linger with friends a little longer, recognize the true meaning of the season, really enjoy watching all the wonderful classic holiday movies, converse over special ornaments as we hang them on the tree, and on and on....It is only the first of December and I have already watched " Miracle on 34th Street" and " It's a Wonderful Life."
A new national survey commissioned by Senior Helpers polled 335 people over age 55 found 68% of mothers say that, as they age, daughters will take better care of them than sons. Add to that the finding that 65% of mothers say their daughters are more likely to want them to join their households and there is no surprise that 70% of mothers with both a son(s) and a daughter(s) would rather move in with a daughter if they are in need of caregiving.
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