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Q: Last year, I confessed to my wife of 35 years that I'd had affairs with several women approximately 20 years ago. She's in the process of forgiving me. We have agreed to move forward and have both seen counselors, separately. However, I feel she's not really moving forward, due to the questions…
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Q: How (and when) do I tell a dating partner about my difficult family situation? I haven't dated in a long time (I'm 59, never married). This is partly due to being a caregiver - first for my dad, who had a stroke, and now my mom, who is recovering from a stroke , and my brother, who has…
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Q: I am almost 65 years old and have never been married. My longest relationship lasted 10 months, right after I turned 40. Since then, I've done some online dating, and like the prospect of finding a partner.  But I'm wondering if it's possible to find a long-term relationship at this stage of…
Breaking Up
Q: After my  wife died three years ago, I reconnected with a woman I'd known in high school. I gave her a ring on Valentine's Day 2009. Three months later, she died of a massive stroke. That came on the heels of my my father's death three months earlier. Since then, I have been having extreme bouts…
Gift box
Q: I remarried two years ago and am happy as can be, except that my husband and I can't figure out how to deal with gift-giving. I have to buy presents for 10 people on  his side, and he has only one person to buy for on my side. Can you help us find a logical solution?
Online Dating1
Q: I've been a widow for almost three years and have gone on some dating sites. I just turned 70, and most of the men in my age category are looking for 50 to 60 year-olds. I don't look 70, but I don't look 50 either. I have a difficult time putting things into an email. How and where do I start to…
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Q: I met someone on a cruise. I am 58 and he is 59. I've been divorced for roughly 20 years; he's been divorced three years after 30 years of marriage. We have a lot in common and although we live in different states and struggle with the long-distance issue, we've been trying to keep in touch…
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Q: I met a widower online last year. We started seeing each other and fell in love. I have been divorced for many years and he became a widower last year after being married for over 40 years. This is the first time I've seen anyone since I divorced. I have met his brothers, sisters, and his…
Online Dating
You have a slightly better chance of staying together if you meet online: That's the finding of a recent collaboration between a dating website and a respected University of Chicago psychologist, and to me it's Big News.
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Q: How do you enter the dating world at my age?
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