Senior Couple Sleeping In Bed
Do you spoon with your honey to fall asleep? Or do you sleep more than an arm's length away? A new British study finds that a couple's sleeping position says a lot about their relationship.
Q: My w ife lost a breast to cancer. Chemotherapy took six months, during which she basically lay on the couch and had no energy. It's now 16 months after chemo and she's still on the couch. I can't get her to get up and do much of anything, including sex. We have no money to do any traveling since Social Security is all we get. Any ideas?
Enjoyable Again
Q: My husband is 50. For some years he has been unable to have an orgasm during intercourse. He can get and maintain an erection for a reasonable amount of time, however. Neither of us get much pleasure from sex as a result, and avoid it because it ends with disappointment. Is there anything we can do to facilitate the orgasm?
Breaking Up
Q: After my  wife died three years ago, I reconnected with a woman I'd known in high school. I gave her a ring on Valentine's Day 2009. Three months later, she died of a massive stroke. That came on the heels of my my father's death three months earlier. Since then, I have been having extreme bouts of loneliness.  I'm now dating three women, one of whom I especially like. But I'm not sure the feeling is reciprocated.  What should I do? I know I shouldn't have three gals at once, and this is making me more depressed. 
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Q: How do you enter the dating world at my age?
Dr. Pepper Schwartz
Q: I don't love my husband anymore. He is controlling, verbally abusive and only wants me for sex. He is retired and I work full time. He never helps around the house, yet questions everything I do. If I work overtime at my job as a medical assistant, he accuses me of having an affair. He has driven my son and daughter away. We went for counseling, and the counselor said he never loved me, just needed me. He has driven all my friends away. I am at the end of my rope. Can you help me?
Dr. Pepper Schwartz
Q: I'm married and lonely. My husband, age 68, has his own business, works six days a week with 10- to 12-hour days, and is recovering from prostate cancer surgery, with a low testosterone count.  
It was a love that was going to last forever. Perhaps it didn't last "forever" but it did run 79 years.
credit card
Q: My husband will not quit spending. He has purchased several vehicles, only to trade them in for less than we owed on them. During our 18-year marriage, we have refinanced our house six times to pay off loans and credit cards. When we refinanced this last time, I refused to pay any of his credit cards or loans off. I would not have even considered refinancing again, but the low rates were appealing.
Felice Shapiro
Felice Shapiro is a writer, entrepreneur, and publisher as well as the founder of Better After 50, a weekly online magazine. In addition to being a teacher and avid runner, hiker, and yogi, she is an AARP contributor.
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