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The man I am about to be intimate with was in diapers when I began having physical relations with men. Although I have 40 years of experience, I haven’t been with many men, so it’s a big deal when I decide to take this step with a new lover. It is not easy being with one man for decades and getting into bed with someone new, especially someone much younger.
Everyone wants to be happy - it's a no-brainer. But what is happiness? The Greek word for happiness is "eudaimonia" which means "having a guiding angel." In 1776, the Founding Fathers felt it important enough to mention the" pursuit of happiness" in the Declaration of Independence. By the 19th century, economists felt they could measure happiness in units of pleasure, but they learned that money could not buy happiness because a person with twice as much income as another was not necessarily two times happier. They learned that deep inner happiness was not measurable. Recently, AARP looked at measuring happiness on a three- point scale (very happy, pretty happy and not too happy) and other researchers have compared responses over time or among difference demographic groups or even countries. Trying to understand what makes people happy gives us an opportunity to help people achieve inner happiness and well-being.
Online Dating
You have a slightly better chance of staying together if you meet online: That's the finding of a recent collaboration between a dating website and a respected University of Chicago psychologist, and to me it's Big News.
50+ Online Dating Fact Sheet
I suspect most people can remember their first kiss, first date, first love - and have even rated those experiences versus subsequent encounters with rose-colored glasses. How many of us have ended up marrying or living for an extended period with their first love? Or maybe you split up and haven't heard from them since. I married my high school boyfriend, but not until 20 years after graduation. The marriage did not last (over 60% of second marriages end in divorce and I was his second), and with no children to maintain ties, we have not stayed in touch.
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I have lived half my life alone. However, it appears I am not 'alone.' According to our AARP Community research, 37% of Boomers are single, either "never married" (12%), divorced/separated (21%) or widowed (4%). And while being single does not necessarily mean you live alone, 57% of boomer singles live alone and another 25% live only with their children.
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Marriage seems to have a sobering effect on men, but it's the opposite with women - they drink more, new research shows.
All right, fess up: How many of you have sent a text message that would make your mama (or teenage daughter) blush? It seems sending X-rated texts--aka "sexting"--isn't just an indulgence of the young: A recent online survey found one in 10 Americans age 55 or older use their cell phones to sext-message.
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When I was a sweet young thing (well, maybe not so sweet) my parents encouraged me to go to college so that I could always have a "fall-back position." They saw it as insurance for survival but they were worried: Would a man want me if I had so much education?
A surprising 62 percent of married couples disagree on the timing of their respective retirements.
Sociologists Wonder: Who Will Care For Single Seniors? A growing number of older men and women are "opting out" of marriage, the New York Times reports. Since the 1990s, the divorce rate for boomers has climbed more than 50 percent, even as it stabilized among other age groups. Meanwhile, less adults got married in the first place. The result is a surprising number of Americans in their 50s and 60s heading into old age sans spouse.
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