Sex After 50

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Q: You omitted an entire group of people in your article for AARP The Magazine on “Sex After 50.” There are those of us who are wa-a-ay over 50 and still enjoy sex, even though it’s solo.
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Q: As a survivor of childhood incest, I've been in therapy for close to 20 years. However - possibly because of the anti-depressants I take - my libido is dead and gone. My sexual parts are unresponsive. My doctor has suggested various treatments, including hormones, and my husband never complains; he loves me as I am and doesn't want me to undergo painful procedures or take hormones. Is there anything you can suggest to help? I feel like my dear husband is missing out on a sex life.
First the twerking. Now Miley Cyrus has proclaimed that sex ends at 40.
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Q: I am a healthy, attractive, active 70-year-old woman who still enjoys sex. My younger partner (by seven years) is rarely interested in making love and I have to initiate it most times. I've tried talking to him, in a non-blaming way, but he clams up, stating there is nothing wrong. What should I do?
Ronna Benjamin
A native Bostonian who loves to spend time with her husband and three adult children, Ronna is a former lawyer who also enjoys sailing, cooking, running, and biking.  
It's a common problem among postmenopausal women - painful sexual intercourse due to thinner, drier, more fragile vaginal tissues. To help the roughly 32 million women with this condition, the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has approved a new drug called Osphena.
My husband and I met in the sweltering summer of 1992 and started rocking and rolling immediately. But from the moment we got married a year later, we were either 1) thinking about getting pregnant, 2) in a state of pregnancy, 3) recovering from pregnancy or 4) enjoying (and coping with) the results of pregnancy: babies, toddlers and, now, two teenagers. It wasn't exactly conducive to swinging from chandeliers.
Q: I'm a 65-year-young woman and had been without sex and a relationship for four years. I have met a 61-year-old man and and we have been seeing each other for six months. The sex we have is something I dreamed about. I call him my sex therapist. He has introduced me to "toys" and oral sex, among other wonderful experiences. Is this normal at this time in my life, or do I need some help? We are seeing each other exclusively, but we do refer to ourselves as "friends with benefits." I'm scared, but also have been walking with a bounce in my step that I haven't had in many years.
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Q: I'm a man who has been married for 34 years. I love my soulmate, but I don't have it in me anymore to make love to her when she's overweight and has been for some time. I just can't do it anymore. And now I feel depressed with no romance. I have no desire for sex anymore and I know my wife is aware. I love her and feel as  if there is nothing left but to wait until life is over. Is this really all there is?
When I turned 50 a few years ago, I was very confused about almost everything. Wanting to be healthy, fit, vital, and stylish for many years to come, I sought the advice from some of the best experts around, used their programs, and put it all together in an easy-to-use book, The Best of Everything After 50.
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