Caring for Our Veterans

My Pop, who served in the Navy during World War II, was fond of sharing stories of his military years, and they always started out with the phrase, “When I was in the service of my country, fighting for mankind....” It reminded his children and grandchildren of the magnitude of the war and the sacrifice millions made.

Last week, as we took time to thank and recognize veterans like Pop, I also thought about all the family caregivers who help them: the mothers, fathers, wives, husbands, children and others who care for our heroes. They manage medications, cook meals, provide transportation, perform complex medical tasks and so much more. While they wouldn’t have it any other way, this isn’t an easy job.

Veterans Day: A time for caring and giving thanks »

Britnee and Percy

Britnee from Louisiana cares for her father, Percy Sr., a 90-year-old World War II veteran. Since Percy’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis, Britnee has helped her father with shopping, cooking, transportation, managing his medications and more — all while raising her 2-year-old son and working full time.

“I have had many challenges. My hardest challenge is my dad (laughs). He is so independent. He is usually the one helping me and others, but now it’s his turn to be helped and he hasn't quite accepted that.”

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Judy and Lewis


Judy from Alabama cared for her husband, a veteran, round-the-clock until he passed away this year from colon cancer and leukemia.

“It is hard at times, tiring, and a mental strain, but worth it all when they look up at you with love in their eyes.”


Lynn and Randy
Lynn and Randy

Lynn from Colorado cares for her husband, Randy, who served in the Navy during the Vietnam War. Now as he battles stage 4 kidney cancer, Lynn does everything from help him bathe and dress to cooking meals and more.

“I am fortunate to have training for this, as I am a CNA [certified nursing assistant] doing home health care…. I often feel overwhelmed, and often wonder how people with no training cope with this.”

To Britnee, Judy, Lynn and all the incredible family caregivers who help our veterans — thank you from the bottom of my heart. AARP is fighting every day in states across the country to bring more support to you and all family caregivers. Here are some of the ways:

If you’re a family caregiver, you’re not alone.

Elaine Ryan is the vice president of state advocacy and strategy integration (SASI) for AARP. She leads a team of dedicated legislative staff members who work with AARP state offices to advance advocacy with governors and state legislators, helping people 50-plus attain and maintain their health and financial security.

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