This weekend we all had the opportunity to celebrate our fathers. As I remembered my Pop — a funny, hardworking, unselfish man — I thought about his devotion to my mom, especially during their later lives when he was her primary caregiver. He shouldered huge responsibilities that I think weighed heavily on his mind.
I remembered the time, several days before Mom had brain surgery, Pop opened his wallet and handed me a small piece of paper. “It’s the anesthesia they gave your mom once and she had a terrible time waking up again. Please don’t let them give it to her this time.” I was amazed that Pop had carried that piece of paper in his wallet for more than 30 years — after my mom’s last post-surgery episode.
While doctors and nurses are experts on medical issues, family caregivers are the experts on their loved ones. They know their eating and sleeping habits, the medications they take, what stimulates their interest and what fills their hearts.
That’s why AARP is fighting for the Caregiver Advise, Record, Enable (CARE) Act, to involve and support family caregivers when their loved ones go into the hospital and as they transition home.
One of the most powerful parts of the CARE Act, and something I know my family would have benefited from, is the provision that allows a family caregiver’s name to be recorded in their loved one’s medical record when they enter the hospital. Additionally, the CARE Act requires hospitals to:
- Notify the family caregiver if their loved one is to be transferred or discharged home
- Provide live instruction and demonstration on the medical tasks — like wound care, medication management or giving injections — the family caregiver will need to perform at home
Keep in mind: Family caregivers are often the first line of defense against older Americans’ being forced from their homes and into nursing homes or back into the hospital. Making sure family caregivers are involved when their loved ones go into the hospital and arming them with the information and instructions they need upon discharge makes good, common sense.
Last week (June 18), Maine became the 17 th state to pass the CARE Act. Here’s what’s happened in other states:
- CARE Act in effect: Oklahoma, New Jersey, Colorado, West Virginia, New Mexico
- CARE Act signed into law: Mississippi, Virginia, Arkansas, Connecticut, Nevada, Indiana, New Hampshire, Oregon
- CARE Act awaiting the governor’s signature: Illinois, New York, Maine, Rhode Island
If you are a family caregiver, you’re not alone.
- To stay up to date or to get involved with our caregiving advocacy in the states, visit org/supportcaregivers, sign up for the AARP Advocates e-newsletter or check out the state Web page.
- To find the tools and support you need, as well as ways to connect with other caregivers, visit the AARP Caregiving Resource Center.
Follow Elaine on Twitter: @RoamTheDome