Parenting Part 2

Mary W. Quigley, a journalist and author, has written two books about motherhood and work. An NYU journalism professor, she is the mother of three adult children, and blogs at www.mothering21.com

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Debt: A Deal Breaker in Millennial Romances?

We heard through the grapevine about a boomer couple upset because their son, who graduated from a prestigious college and professional school without loans, was marrying a young lawyer with tens of thousands in educational debt. The parents feared that paying off this financial burden would delay the couple in buying a house and starting a family. Wisely, they chose to say nothing. Their concern is not unwarranted. Millennials who are able to get ahead financially by owning a house …

How to Play the Mother-in-Law Name Game With Millennials

Weddings, as we observed last week, can ignite bad feelings among family members. Once past the nuptials, the young couple may expect “happily ever after,” yet other issues can bedevil both parents and adult children. One sticking point is what to call an in-law, particularly a mother-in-law. For some reason, male in-laws don’t seem to have this problem. We chatted recently with a friend who mentioned that when her son got engaged more than a decade ago, she asked the …

A Millennial Dilemma: Decline or Accept Those Wedding Invitations?

Weddings bloom in summer, and sometimes those festivities blossom all at once for boomer parents and their adult children. The average age for a bride is 29 and for a groom, 31. When the adult children of friends and family hover in that age category, we can expect many invites, sometimes too many for our budget and schedules. The wedding day, ranging from backyard affairs to Las Vegas-style extravaganzas, isn’t the only event. Engagement festivities, showers, and bachelor and bachelorette …

Maneuvering Family Vacations With Adult Kids, Grandkids and More

When it comes to travel, writer Janey Womeldorf knows her way around. She has worked as a tour guide in her native Bath, England, and as a travel agent in Germany. Now, as an Orlando, Fla., transplant, she’s the in-house theme-park planner for her extended family. Over the last decade Womeldorf has coordinated family trips that include toddlers and adult children as well as grandparents. While family vacations can be a wonderful chance to reconnect, they can also be a time …

Calm Down: Your Millennial Kids Are All Right

The traditional markers of adulthood usually include employment, financial independence, marriage, a home and children. And many of our millennials are taking their time achieving them, especially compared to their boomer parents. Two writers — one an academic and the other a 20-something — question the accuracy of those touchstones. In his book, The Prime of Life, history professor Steven Mintz points out that Americans started marrying in their early 20s only after World War II. Apparently emerging adults have …

How to Rid Your Home of Your Adult Children’s Stuff

I blame Star Wars for halting my annual cleaning spree. Confronted in the attic with boxes of 1980s-era toys, from Darth Vader figures to a Millennium Falcon spacecraft, I called my son to tell him I was going to throw them out. Stunned silence. He lives in a small New York City apartment, so he’s not able to store the toys — but he couldn’t imagine tossing them either. Those Star Wars figures are just one roadblock to my efforts …