OK, ladies, let’s look at specific male dating behaviors and identify which ones might work for us, too. Here are a few of my favorites from the book How to Date Like a Man by Myreah Moore.
A guilt-free numbers game. Men feel completely guilt-free while dating women simultaneously. Dating multiple men left me feeling a little guilty.
But then came the man who, on just our second date, said he quit an online dating site after meeting me and wanted me to meet his mother and friends. But we’re only dating, I told him, and I’m not your girlfriend. I liked they guy OK, but his impulsiveness weirded me out a bit. I’m learning to say, “No, thank you,” with less guilt.
Be a trickle and not a fire hose. Men avoid talking about their relationships during the initial phase of dating. They keep their personal problems and dramas to themselves, even while some men function on a “need to know” about you basis. If you’re hoping for a second or third date, try to avoid talking about emotional, financial or physical problems. Don’t reveal too much information too quickly, only what you’re really comfortable sharing. Be mysterious. And please, try not to overanalyze the relationship after a date. Men don’t. They probably turn on the TV and fall asleep.
Be attentive, but neutral. Men are generally good at hiding their emotions during initial dates. How about women? My face tells all, I've been told. Still, even if I meet an interesting man with boyfriend potential, I think I manage to resist talking about the relationship and where it’s heading.
Coming Nov. 26: Why I’m thankful about dating.
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