Lupe Ontiveros: A Voice for the Disenfranchised

Lupe Ontiveros cleaned toilets, terrorized her daughter-in-law and killed Tejana superstar Selena – all in the movies, of course. She poured her soul into every role, bringing respect and dignity to the poorest maid, humor and heart to the most despised character. But what I loved about Lupe, who died July 26 of cancer at age 69, was her passion as a mother, a mentor and an advocate; how she turned stage and screen into bully pulpits for the causes …

Carlos Fuentes on Writing: “A Force Beyond My Control”

“Did my wife put you up to this?” Carlos Fuentes asked me when I insisted he wear a tie for our (AARP VIVA’s) on-camera interview and cover photo shoot. Fuentes, an elegant soul, a gentleman, and a literary master, was also stubborn as a mule. I say this partly as a compliment, for I too am stubborn as all good Basques should be; but I was equally frustrated, for he had already tried my patience the day before when he …

Striking a Balance in Dating

Cómo lograr el equilibrio en las citas

The Mountains and Molehills of Dating

Do opposites really attract? This was the question Segunda and I found ourselves mulling over as we considered another round of the Dating Game. There was one contestant, let’s call him the German “Mr. Clean,” that I had yet to call back for a second date. Why the hesitation? He definitely stood out as a perfect gentleman and his rugged Bruce Willis looks were sure a draw. Plus, as a triathlete, he approached life with the same sense of adventure …

Las montañas y los granos de arena de las citas amorosas

¿Se atraen verdaderamente los polos opuestos? Esta era la pregunta sobre la que Segunda y yo reflexionamos mientras considerábamos volver a aceptar citas con pretendientes. Habí­a un participante -llamémoslo el alemán “Sr. Pulcritud”- al que todaví­a debí­a llamar para arreglar una segunda cita. ¿Por qué la indecisión? Definitivamente se destacaba como un perfecto caballero y su recio parecido con Bruce Willis era, sin dudas, un gran atractivo. Además, como triatleta, encaraba la vida con la misma actitud aventurera a la …