Rachel Blumme

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A recent Washington Post article written by Christian Rudder, author of Dataclysm and cofounder of OkCupid, debunked five myths about online dating. The fifth: “Photos are the best way to tell whether you’ll be attracted to someone.”
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He wore a black shirt and white shorts. I wore a white shirt with black capris. We met at the beach concession stand, just as the Super-Harvest Blood Moon fully eclipsed. It was dark, but our white garments divulged our identities. He was Mr. 97%, the man whose answers to hundreds of questions on…
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It took a few weeks, but Mr. 99% finally called. He’s  the elusive man with whom I shared 99 percent of the same answers for hundreds of questions on the OkCupid online dating site. We “conversed” for an hour. Although he was interesting, he also did 99 percent of the talking.
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OkCupid tells me I’m 99 percent compatible with another visitor to the online dating site. This is based on how Mr. 99% and I answered hundreds of questions. Here are examples of the 547 questions we both answered.
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One of my readers suggested that I sign up for the popular online dating site OkCupid. I wasn’t making much progress on other sites, so I gave this one a try. I found OkCupid fascinating.
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Home Depot is my ex’s second home, and during our years together it also became mine by default. How familiar the aisles are no matter which store I enter, in no matter which community. The store’s layout is as comfortable as my own backyard and garage. Heck, half the stuff in those spaces we…
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Body language is often a dead giveaway of lying, but so is language. In Never Be Lied to Again, author David J. Lieberman makes the case that liars use certain words, phrases and syntax. These prevaricators spit out responses quickly like a parrot thinking it conceals what they’re doing, and they…
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I’ve found that men I date are “ honesty-challenged.” Many of them complain that women at online dating sites also post old photographs of themselves and lie about their age.
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My biggest criticism of online dating is this: People lie. Like my ex. When I came across his profile on a site, he had shed eight years.
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The book Soul Signs by Rosemary Altea not only taught me about myself, it also taught me how to determine compatible mates for me. With my horrible track record, the lesson was welcome.
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